That's the title of a poem I read in my english reader in junior school.
Its about a solitary reaper tilling her fields. I dont remember the name of the poet but this title has kind of stayed with me.
The meaning of the poem or the poet's message in it was not at all what I intend to write about here, poetry is a matter of perspective.
We all need to have a sense of security and belonging. This sense we derive out of people around us. That is the biggest reason of our insecurities as well, as we always fear losing loved ones.
If We start relishing moments of solitude and try to enjoy our own company. We can get better of all our insecurities.
There is comfort and freedom in solitude.
We need to get over the fixation that we need to belong to a group even if we dont believe in its values or agenda.
I have been a loner most of my life though I love all my friends and truly cherish all friendships and associations that I have made along the way. But friends need to move on.Relationships evolve over time. There is one thing that never changes- solitude.
There are no expectations, no justifications , just freedom.
I dont intend to say that one should not bond with people, love is after all the most wonderful thing in life, but one should not be afraid to let go. That needs sense of detachment over and above attachment.
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This is one truth we all need to realise it either today , or tmrw the so called LIFE will make us realise it. I am not tellin to be completely isolate urself , but yes ,not enjoin this beautiful day that he has given us , just because we are not with someone , is not worth giving up. Coz , the day aint gonna come back. A very practical, hidden concept , though not an easy to be followed one , but yes , if achieved , none to fear for. Beautifully put , again the expression of thoughts in words , a point hit that is worth exploring , that can answer a lot of unanswered questions indeed ....
I agree to Aditi but only up to some extent. I guess I am taking this to a little different direction. If a person can learn to enjoy solitude then nothing like that. It will definitely help u to deal with ups and downs of life. But this does not means that you have to create a sense of isolation around you and then learn to cherish it believing that this is the best thing to do.
With time Friends move on but the bond of friendship u built wont just go away untill u let it go. Relations evolve.. but they can also get better and better with time. Gaps wont creep in if you dont want them to.
Learning to live in solitude can be a great thing if achieved but developing a mindset to get to this goal isnt a great idea I guess. Maybe it can help u survive but can never take the place of a good friend. Life is not just about ur career and ur family.. its much more then that.. try to get hold of all the relations u made.. this world will become a wonderful place to live.. and hope u never come across this "Solitude" thing in ur whole life!!
What Say ??
Daman: See, thats what I said that I dont intend to say that you isolate yourself, but the gist of the whole thing is that you need not be afraid of solitude becuase that is unavoidable at times.By no means, we should choose solitude over company of loved ones but if at all we are alone due to some unexpected twists of destiny then let us learn to make the best use of our time alone by doing what we love the best.
Agreed!! Life is just like a Rollercoaster.. there will be some ups & downs definitely and nobody can run away from that. But I think its not the physical Solitude that scares people the most but the fear of loosing ur loved ones (u mentioned it earlier). I am not talking about the physical presence but the relations you share. Even the feeling that you still have somebody somewhere who cares for you.. can help you survive ur loneliness. On the other hand it wont matter that much to you if you never had anybody at the first place. But imagine to loose ur relation with somebody very close to ur heart. Exactly.. thats the fear I am talking about.
thats exactly what In talked about too...fear of losing loved ones( that includes people very close n very very close ok?). I am not saying its goin to make the loss any less,If you are used to being to yourself and love your own company, you can get over the pain...
I am not disagreeing with u Aditi. Its only that I feel you are talking more about physical Solitude i.e. being alone somewhere far off from ur loved ones and I was talking about the relations not considering the actual physical presence.
I agree that it will surely reduce the pain but my point is to put an extra effort to maintain ur relations with ur loved ones. People may leave but the memories are here to stay forever and good ones will always bring a smile on ur face but the bad ones... no need to say...
There is always an exception.. if u dont remember things.. life will always be wonderful!! ha ha ha
I take my words back.. I guess u are right. Better learn to enjoy ur solitude or else someday u will be suffering!!
Beautiful Thought!!
I agree with you, Solitude is like your personal treasure and should always be cherished.....
Daman Paaji as i see has been confusing it with loneliness.. but i guess both are poles apart :):)
And i love the poem too.... bahut saal ho gaye.. reminds me of old school days!! there are some more wonderful poets out there....
Ogden Nash!! if you remember is one of my favourites!!
Oye Beri.. maine hathyaar daal diye aur ab tu mere peeche pad gaya!!
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